That will be the topic this week on Moody Radio's "Up For Debate" which airs on Saturday, September 15th at 9AM EST (8AM CST).
I believe that what I do as an at-home dad does not violate what God wants me to be as a man/husband/father, but actually fulfills it. I don't believe that every father must be an at-home dad to fulfill the responsibilities that God places on men, but I do believe that every Christian father has the freedom to choose the best definition of "provide" for his own family based on their needs and the unique gifts and talents of each spouse. I believe that every Christian father has a duty to provide more than money - namely spiritual leadership, the investment of time, demonstrations of love, and involvement in the activities of the home.
Dr. Owen Strachan will be presenting the opposing view, arguing that the "Dad-Mom" (the term he likes to borrow from an advertising campaign by TIDE) is a "Man-Fail". I think he will be surprised when I AGREE WITH HIM. The commercial he uses to define at-home dads was a terrible example of the attitudes of most at-home dads. It was clearly an "advertising fail" and if real at-home dads acted like that guy in the commercial, we would be failing as well.
I don't think that most at-home dads are trying to be moms. I think they just want to be fantastic fathers! Not only that, I think it is easy to make assumptions about what we are and what we do when you don't talk to us before writing a ridiculous article about a commercial that a lot of us hated enough to write about. He could have easily chosen to write about the shorter version of the same commercial that was much more reflective of the attitude that most of us have about our roles as primary caregiver (pssst... it's about the kids!) For additional reading, see what each of these bloggers thought about the very same set of commercials:
The Daddy Doctrines, NYC Dads Group, 8Bit Dad, CBS NEWS, DaddyMojo, and oh yeah, The Real Matt Daddy.
For those who would be interested in hearing this debate, you can listen live HERE and you can also participate by calling in at (312)-274-9624 (sorry, there is no 800 number).